In the 1957 movie ‘An Affair to Remember’, Cary Grant and Deborah Kerr agree to reunite at the top of the Empire State Building in six months if they are still in love with each.

Create your own lovers meeting (without the getting hit by a car bit from the movie) and organise to meet your partner at an iconic place each year. Maybe it’s on bridge or on top of a building or mountain or the place you proposed or first met. Put it on the calendar and organise child care if you need it. Arrive separately and share the moment. Continue on to dinner or a movie if you want or just go home and return to normality, knowing that next year you’ll share the escape of that moment again.