Remember when you first met your partner and you delighted in sharing the details of each other’s life, interests and experiences? A study by Dr. Aron, Edward Melinat, Elaine N. Aron, Robert Darrin Vallone and Renee J. Bator, originally published in the Personality and Social Psychology Journal (read the full study here) found that intimacy between two strangers can be accelerated by having them ask each other a specific series of personal questions. The idea is that mutual vulnerability fosters closeness. You can use these questions to rekindle your relationship and learn (or remember) things about your partner.

You can go through the questions while you are on a date or a long car trip (it takes about an hour). You can take it in turns to answer each question or have each person answer the whole 36 before the other answers them. You can access the questions on a mobile device here: nytimes.com/36q or on this website.

Included among the 36 are questions like “If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?” and “Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.”